Best friends very often say some of the best things you’ll ever hear, but also many of the very things a person is most likely to fail to pay attention to (since you see and hear them most everyday), hear only part way, and, regretfully, forget nearly as soon as they were said.
One of my best friends is a carpenter of extraordinary ability. He and I have worked together a fair amount. If he were writing this he’d probably say that he worked and I watched, but nonetheless, it is during those wonderful hours together that I’ve heard him say, “I’ll nod my head, you hit it.” The context is typically a job that requires a human with four hands, but since neither of us qualify we depend on each other provide the additional grip. After a moment of maneuvering the piece of wood into just the right position, it becomes evident that one of us will have to hold the wood with one hand and a nail with the other while the other person holds the adjoining piece of wood and the hammer.
I know you can see this coming…he seems most often to hold the nail and I the hammer. At that moment, out it comes: “I’ll nod my head, you hit it,” he’ll say. We’ll both giggle like school girls for a moment and then as promised, he’ll nod his head and I’ll hit the nail. The nod works pretty well. It communicates a message that is clear and concise: I’m ready, or lets do this, or now!
So where did this practical use of the nod get off the tracks of its simple journey?
Far too frequent now I witness someone standing before a group of people expounding a topic (it’s most often a topic of considerable insignificance) while many in the audience are nodding their heads as if in some kind of agreement with the most profound statement they’ve ever heard. Aggressively their chins pivot like a Texas oil rig doing its best work. They could easily be listening to either Barack Obama or John McCain say a lot about nothing (or a whole boat load of things that neither of them has any control over and never will) but with tremendous passion and conviction.
What is going on? I’d ask if they’ve lost their heads, but since I can see them nodding I know that can’t be it. I can hear the professor answer from my distant college past saying, “You’re so judgmental. There’s nothing wrong with them acknowledging their agreement with the speakers thoughts.” You’ve probably heard similar responses to questions you’ve raised regarding human behavior. They’re in that “don’t judge anything” category. Coming from an academic I’m not sure whether I should be humored or depressed. Don’t we do well when asking questions about life? Aren’t academics supposed to be curious about nearly everything?
At any rate, I’m curious. Maybe I’m most curious about things that happen in a society which, when scrutinized, represent a significant alteration in the fabric of human becoming, but which have been stitched so slowly that not only didn’t we see the needle and thread moving amongst us, but we didn’t even know someone or something had the needle and thread out of the cultural and intellectual drawer.
At this moment I feel sort of like that giant SETI satellite array focused on outer space. Although it’s seeking extraterrestrial life of any kind, I’m seeking life on earth period. I’m beaming my message to the world and wondering if there is anyone else out there that has noticed these odd changes in us?
Head nodding odd? Well, not in and of itself, but it is what may be represented by the incessant nod: a growing mental fog; a lack of clarity in thinking while simultaneously clinging tenaciously to the belief that we are somehow smarter and more savvy than any previous generation in the history of the world.
In what appears to me to be in more and more quarters, you could be worthy of condemnation and rebuke if you don’t nod your head in apparent total agreement with the messenger. Is it a scene from Orwell’s “1984″? I think of talk-show host Hugh Hewitt exuberantly proclaiming the unbeatableness of Mit Romney. He would brow-beat anyone that challenged his position and optimism for Romney’s superior political status as a candidate for president of the United States. But then disaster. Romney lost to McCain. Nearly immediately Hugh picked up the joy baton for McCain’s parade and began verbally hitting objectors and detractors over the head with it if they refused to nod in agreement with him and his new found mission. Or there is talk-show host Mike Gallagher who on Monday, Oct. 20th, invited a “friend” and fellow talk-show host to discuss his move to Barack Obama over the radio air-waves. Even though Mike vowed to avoid personal attacks at the absence of head nodding by Michael Smerconish, it took only a few moments before Gallagher asked if there was a secret personal problem in Smerconish’s life that was interfering with his ability to nod his head in passionate agreement with the ways of McCain and Palin.
Here’s the link to Smerconish’s thoughts that led him to cease his Republican head nodding.
You’re probably beginning to think that I support Obama. If so, then you’ll be off track. I don’t. It would take another 500 words to explain the lunacy of the leftists in dealing with anti-head nodders. They would slap the Fairness Doctrine on them in heart beat if given the chance. See this link.
So why all the head nodding? Could it be more from fear of the opinion of others (as rediculous as that may be) than from ignorance? It seems like it to me. Afterall, who wants to be on the outside when all the insiders seem to having all the “fun.”